Growing up 4,000 miles from where I now live, my only frame of reference for American life was TV and film from the 1980s. These cultural exports infiltrated Britain much like British music made its way across the pond. As a child, I was captivated by movies like The Goonies and Back to the Future. But it was a late ’80s comedy that would shape my understanding of a quintessential American holiday – Thanksgiving.

Planes Trains and Automobiles: A British Perspective on Thanksgiving

My introduction to Thanksgiving came via the movie “Planes, Trains and Automobiles.” My dad brought home this VHS tape from a London business trip, promising it was “right funny.” Despite initial skepticism, I found myself captivated by the comedic journey of Steve Martin trying to get home for Thanksgiving.

However, the film left me with more questions than answers about this mysterious American holiday. Here are some misconceptions I had:

• I thought Thanksgiving was just another word for Christmas.
• The snowy scenes made me think it was a winter holiday.
• The giant turkey reminded me of British Christmas dinner.

It wasn’t until I moved to the United States that I discovered the truth about Thanksgiving – and it wasn’t what I expected.

The Real American Thanksgiving Experience

My first real Thanksgiving experience came about two weeks after moving to the United States. It quickly became clear that this holiday was distinct from Christmas and had its own unique traditions.

When is Thanksgiving celebrated?

Contrary to my initial beliefs, Thanksgiving occurs on the fourth Thursday of November – not in December like Christmas. This revelation was eye-opening, as was learning about Canadian Thanksgiving, which takes place on the second Monday in October.

Giving thanks and family traditions

The essence of Thanksgiving, as I came to understand, is about expressing gratitude. Many families have a tradition of saying grace before the meal, thanking the Lord for the bountiful food. It’s a joyous occasion with less pressure than Christmas – no gift-giving required!

Thanksgiving travel patterns

The basic premise of “Planes, Trains and Automobiles” – the chaotic travel around Thanksgiving – turned out to be quite accurate. According to AAA, around 80 million Americans travel at least 50 miles during this time. I’ve become one of those travelers, making the journey from Chicago to Indiana to visit family.

Thanksgiving Food: A Culinary Journey

My first Thanksgiving dinner was a revelation. While the turkey was familiar, many other dishes were new to me.

Traditional Thanksgiving dinner items

Here are some staples of a Thanksgiving feast:

• Turkey (of course)
• Stuffing (or dressing)
• Mashed potatoes
• Cranberry sauce
• Green bean casserole
• Various pies for dessert

Pies and desserts

The variety of pies was a pleasant surprise. Instead of Christmas pudding or mince pies, Thanksgiving offers pecan pie, pumpkin pie, and sweet potato pie. These desserts quickly became my favorite part of the meal.

Stuffing vs. dressing debate

I learned that what Americans call “stuffing” or “dressing” is quite different from British stuffing. In the US, it’s often a bread-heavy dish served in a casserole, while in Britain, we might have stuffing balls. The regional variations, like oyster dressing in the South, add another layer of complexity to this side dish.

Thanksgiving Family Gatherings: Expectations vs. Reality

Movies like “Planes, Trains and Automobiles” often portray Thanksgiving gatherings in spacious suburban homes filled with extended family. While this can be true for some, my experience has shown that Thanksgiving celebrations come in all shapes and sizes.

American hospitality and inclusivity

One aspect of Thanksgiving that has impressed me is the American tendency to extend invitations widely. It’s common to include not just family, but friends, neighbors, and even acquaintances in the celebration. This inclusivity can be both heartwarming and overwhelming, especially for introverts like myself.

Challenges for introverts

Large family gatherings can be daunting for those who prefer smaller, quieter settings. However, I’ve found that the relaxed nature of Thanksgiving often allows for moments of retreat and quieter conversations amidst the bustle.

Appreciating Thanksgiving as an Expatriate

As someone who has adopted Thanksgiving as an adult, I’ve come to appreciate this uniquely American holiday. It’s a time for reflection, gratitude, and yes, indulgence in delicious food. While it may not have the same childhood nostalgia for me as it does for native-born Americans, it has become an integral part of my life in the United States.

Thirty-five years after first watching “Planes, Trains and Automobiles,” I find myself living in a Chicago suburb, much like Steve Martin’s character. Though my house may be smaller, the spirit of Thanksgiving – with all its quirks and charms – has become a cherished part of my American experience.

FAQ (Frequently Asked Questions)

What’s the difference between Thanksgiving in the US and Canada?

While both countries celebrate Thanksgiving, the dates differ. American Thanksgiving is on the fourth Thursday of November, while Canadian Thanksgiving is on the second Monday of October. The traditions and foods can also vary slightly between the two countries.

Why is turkey the main dish for Thanksgiving?

Turkey became the centerpiece of Thanksgiving dinner due to its size (perfect for feeding large gatherings) and its native status in North America. The tradition dates back to the 19th century when turkey was more affordable and accessible than other meats.

How do Americans typically celebrate Thanksgiving?

Typical celebrations include gathering with family or friends for a large meal, watching football games, participating in parades (or watching them on TV), and expressing gratitude for the good things in life. Many people also volunteer at food banks or shelters during this time.

What are some alternatives to turkey for Thanksgiving dinner?

While turkey is traditional, many families opt for alternatives like ham, roast beef, or vegetarian/vegan options such as stuffed squash or lentil loaf. The side dishes often remain similar regardless of the main course.

How do expatriates in America typically experience their first Thanksgiving?

Many expatriates, like myself, experience their first Thanksgiving through invitations from American friends or colleagues. It’s often a mix of curiosity, cultural learning, and adapting to new traditions. Some may incorporate elements from their own cultural backgrounds into the celebration.